Dear Mand,

I hope you can help me. I have been with my

 boyfriend for about a year now and we met over 

the Internet via a dating agency. Everything was

 going well until recently when I discovered that 

he had still been going on the dating site. I posed

 as another women on the site and asked him if he 

was single and he said YES. When I confronted him 

about it, he cried and said that he didn’t mean it;

 he was just curious and had to renew his membership

 to answer the mysterious woman. I forgave him but

 became suspicious, so I had a look around his bedroom

 and found his diary. He is ultimately a man of few 

words bust he writes things like ‘ saw Jane, 

went for a walk’ – ‘saw, Sally – had a hot-tub’. 

I don’t know what to do – this could be innocent 

and I don’t want him to know that I have been 

snooping – what would you advise?

I have never met you in person. I don't know 

whether you are stunningly gorgeous or hideously 

ugly. This would obviously give me some indication

 as to  which way one would answer ones plight.

Now... if you are beautiful, then my answer is simple;

Ditch the lying, two faced, self centered, self 

loving arrogant little ba**ard. If you are the latter

 then my answer is a little more complex. When nature 

has been terribly cruel one has to view the world in a 

slightly different light. You can't blame a man for 

continuing his search for something more appealing. 

The reason why he doesn't want to be dumped is 

because men will shag anything that breathes.

 At the moment, that's you!! 

Perhaps you should appreciate his advances a Little

more. Be grateful that he is sensitive and thoughtful

enough to bite the bullet and disregard what his

friends might say should you be seen together. This

 man is an angel. He cares more about YOUR feelings 

and the many others like you, still searching those

 singles sites. The fact that he is sharing himself 

around just confirms one thing.... This man is a

 genuinely wonderful person who can only command the 

highest respect. A rare gem left in a world full of males 

with a me, me, me attitude. You must cherish and adore 

this amazing man, he maybe your only chance!! If it was

 me (I would class myself as a middle of the road’ 

type of girl), I would piss in the bastards tea!!