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Summer 1998
I was
a confident and outgoing 28 Year Old. Having being
married To Gary the father of Ross my 1st Born for a
little over 12 months, things aren't going well. Gary is
the possessive type. As money is tight I am told if I
want nice things I must get a Job. After only 1
interview I am offered an office administrator's position
locally. I accept the job, but little time passes before
there is trouble. I am now working with engineers and he
gets Jealous! I am no longer the outgoing
confident person I once was as I need to keep my head
down to keep the peace.
September
1999
I had
made the decision that I needed to be a little more
independent some months ago, and regain control of my
life. the first step was learn to drive so I didn't have
to rely on Gary for ANYTHING.
I take my
Driving test on 19th September 1999, And to my disbelief
I PASS 1st Time with only 4 minor marks !!!
Gary pretended to be happy for me, but I knew deep down
he wanted me to fail.
Early 2000
Gary's father
falls ill with stomach cancer. He has an operation to
have his the cancer removed, but soon after Jims
condition deteriorates and the inevitable happens. Jim
died in March 2000. (God Bless you Jim) Life goes on
they say, but Gary took his fathers Death very badly. He
was close to having a nervous breakdown and my home life
was a Living Hell. After 3 months Gary returned to work,
but our relationship was under tremendous stress, and
the arguments seemed to be endless. We soldier on,
trying to make things work for the the sake of our son
Ross.
November
2000
It is 5
O'clock in the morning, there is a knock at the door.
Gary is fast asleep so I go downstairs and put the chain
on the door before slowly opening it. There is a Police
Officer standing before me, with some man standing
behind him who I recognise to be a friend of Gary's
brother. I am greeted with a soft voice asking if Gary
was at home. I invite the Police officer inside and I
run upstairs to wake Gary. He immediately goes
downstairs and I find my dressing gown before following
him. As I enter the room Gary has collapsed onto
settee and is sobbing like a baby. I automatically put
my arm around him and then look up to the Policeman for
some explanation. The words that followed were
hard to swallow. Dean Gary's youngest brother had been
killed earlier that evening in a Motorbike
accident......
2001
Things between
Gary and I went from BAD to WORSE.... He was addicted to
PLAYSTATION (Still is from what I am told!) he
frequently used to stay up ALL NIGHT playing. At times
he didn't come to bed until 6.00 am!
I have never
been a fan of computer games and as he was selfish
enough to play on the big TV in the front room I was
left only with the choice of watching the portable TV in
the bedroom or kitchen. I decided that I needed
some sort of hobby myself. so I bought a PC and decided
to get online.
AOL had one
of its special FREE trial offers and so I subscribed to
there services .... I soon found myself in the Chatrooms!
Before long, I
found one or two "Special Friends" mainly Men ... and
even met up with a couple of them.
One night I
was sent an IM from Xpl0rer I was Wizzardorea even back
then!
We spoke
online regularly and we soon got VERY CLOSE .... OK so
it was a gamble .... these people online are either
TOTALLY GENUINE or telling a Pack of Lies!
I told Josh
(His preferred name) all about my life with Gary and how
unhappy I was ... I wanted to leave but had nowhere to
go.... At the time he was self employed an living in
Northampton.
We started
speaking on the phone ... sometime for hours!!!
Soon after He
offered me a job and his spare room!
I couldn't
resist as we were like soulmates,
I agreed to
drive to Northampton and meet him! (I had only been
driving since September and had NEVER been on the
motorway, it was a risk I was willing to take.)
JULY 5th
2001
I make up some
Bullshit story to tell Gary, about having to go to
Bristol with my Boss for a meeting (This was a regular
occurrence)
I have told
both my Mum and My Boss of my intentions by the way ...
just in case you think I am totally Mad!
I leave the
house at 7.30am and hit the motorway.... after driving
for approx 50 miles I realise I left the M6 for the M1
North rather than South and have to turn round!!! My
nerves were starting to get the better of me...
I called Josh
to tell him that I hadn't bailed out and I was going to
be a little later than expected.
I finally
arrive at Northampton and call him on his mobile, he
says he's on his way.... He arrives approx 10 mins later
and we finally meet in the flesh (I felt like a school
kid!) I was so excited and immediately fell in love when
I saw him (I had seen pictures, but he was better in
real life!)
He said we
should go for a coffee before he took me to the house to
see my new room.... He jumped in his car and I followed
him to Tesco (OK so its not the most classy place to be
taken on a first date LOL) What's worse that he had no
cash ... he only had his debit card and the ATM was
broken so I paid for the coffee!!
Anyway after
about an hour of constant chatting, I follow him back to
his place, he shows me round and then we sit with
another coffee to decide the nest way forward ... It
wasn't long before we were ripping each others clothes
off and going to the bedroom! It was magic .... But
reality sets in and I need to leave FAST .. I've got to
pick Ross up from Nursery .... I get dressed and follow
him back to the motorway, there has been an accident and
the traffic is SOLID!!
I choose my
Route, kiss Josh goodbye, and with a tear in my eye head
back home on the A roads...
I have to call
Gary and make some excuse that the meeting in Bristol
ran late and I cannot get home in time to get Ross .. He
is surprisingly fine about it??
After reaching
home I say I am too tired to cook and so I head out to
KFC - My chance to call Josh and let him know I have
arrived home and all is safe and well. That very night
as Gary is downstairs on the Playstation I am chatting
online with Josh...
I have made my
decision ... I am LEAVING GARY!
The next day I
sit down with Gary and tell him that i am not happy and
I need a few days away to get my head straight. I tell
him that I am going to spend the weekend at my Mum's
caravan in Minehead. I take Ross with me, and say
goodbye
I in fact
spend the night at my Mums House. The very Next day I
went back home whilst Gary was at work and I emptied the
House of EVERYTHING that was mine!
I leave him
a note explaining everything ....
Later that
afternoon I panic ... Gary will come looking for me ...
he knows I will be at my mums.. I look at the clock and
realise he will be home soon ... I grab a bag together,
and strap Ross into the car ... I Call Josh and
head for Northampton (Ross is Only 4 yrs Old at this
point)....
We arrived in
Northampton and Josh drove over to meet me and Ross,
considering Ross was still a baby in the real sense he
was surprisingly good and accepted Josh straight away!
We went back to Josh's house and before long the phone
rang ... it was Gary ... He was surprisingly calm and
just wanted to know we were OK (Oh and of course where
we were ... He surprised me yet again as he didn't go
ballistic as I expected he would!)
After that
everything ran smoothly .....
After just 4
weeks Josh Moved to Walsall and we moved in together....
I told Gary he could have the House if he gave me a
divorce .... He agreed :)
Josh and I
married on
JULY 6th 2002
exactly a Year and a Day after we first met!
We went to
Rhodes for our Honeymoon ... My 1st holiday abroad. We
had a wonderful time.
The day after
we get home my Mum married John, her partner of 8
Years...
The following
day I find out I'm pregnant .... Both Josh and I were
over the moon ... A HONEYMOON BABY........
I head for
work on the following Monday only to be told that I was
no longer needed and I was made redundant with immediate
effect! ... The boss drove me home and I had to hand
over the keys to the Company car ...
I was
distraught ... 2 days later I received a call from the
HR manager of the Company ... I had NOT been made
redundant after all?? (The manager who told me I was
redundant hadn't followed employment law procedure...
the company were in a difficult position... - WE NEVER
REALLY GOT ON FROM WHEN SHE WAS APPOINTED) I was told to
stay at home so this "Matter" could be sorted out ...
I did, but
that night I started bleeding .... I lost Our baby....
After numerous
meetings it was decided that I should go back to work
.... I had attended numerous interviews as I hated the
prospect of working alongside the person who I blamed
for loosing my baby.
I attended an
interview at a company in Birmingham only to find that
my Manager had also applied for the Job!
The next day I
had a Shock ..... I found out that I was pregnant AGAIN!
.. I didn't know how to react at first ... I was so
happy but so scared!!!! So Was Josh.
A few days
passed and I had a phone call ... I was offered the Job!
I couldn't
wait to get to the office and hand in my notice along
with some comment about me getting the job!
The rest is
history....
I had a rough
pregnancy and was signed off work during month 3 .....
This is when I found EBay!
Maxwell
was born at 6.23 am less than an hour of arriving at the
hospital.....
LIFE IS GOOD
:)
Cheryl O'Brien (Wizzardorea)
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